Did you know that it's often not the bad things that keep you from doing what you really want to be doing? It can be the good things. Let me tell you about something I miss greatly in my life: Playing Call of Duty on my PS3 with my brother, Ben, and good friend, Mark. Honestly, aside from being so much fun to destroy teenagers with fellow dad's, it was a really good way to just chat and stay in touch with what was going on in their lives. And I miss that. We don't talk as much as we used to. But there was a cost to this good thing in my life. I spent 1400 hours playing it over the course of 9 months. And there were a lot of great things I could've done with those 1400 hours. So I finally got up the courage to disappoint two of my favourite people in the world and tell them I was selling my PS3. It sucked. But I certainly don't regret it. Because in the last year, I've learned photography, videography, stepped up my social media game, started a YouTube channel, and gained more hours for my family. Giving up a good thing has helped me find new passion, energy, and I'm now getting paid to do a lot more stuff than I used to because of it. Oh, and I'm super-thankful that my brother started a bi-weekly wings night that Mark comes to, too, so we have a chance to stay in touch. Here's the thing, though - you can't just give up something good and expect something great to come along. You'll just fall back into something good - or worse - something bad. There's a few keys I've found that have helped me fill good things with great things: 1. Invest in something new For me, I like toys. And I've talked about how I spend money on things that I don't always use. But for every one thing that I don't end up using, there's another one that I do and I love it. Sometimes you don't know until you try. Putting some money where you mouth is helps you be accountable for doing something new. A new PS4 game is like $70 when it comes out. Your PS4 or Xbox One is probably worth $300-$400. There's A LOT of cool stuff you can buy with that. 2. Make sure you have an outlet for it It's way to easy to buy something and let is sit...
We think lots about how much we make at work. But do you ever stop to think how much your work costs you?
I seem to be having more conversations with people these days where they say something like, “I hate my job, but the money is just too good”.
So they continue on being miserable and stressed for 40-60 hours a week, and all they ever seem to end up with is a slightly bigger house, a slightly nicer vacation each year, and a slightly nicer car.
Yet they’re still miserable. Because they hate what they do, they’re stressed about, and it consumes their mind.
So to get away from it, they go home to their slightly nicer house and binge watch House of Cards on their slightly larger TV.
Only to wake up and do the same thing again the next day.
The problem is that we’ve defined success based on money/things and not on what’s really valuable – quality time for the things we love.
Reframe the question.
How much time do I need for the people I love or the things I really want to do with my life?